In today's world of instant communication, it's a bit harder to let go when the kids leave home. I think that all of the older kids had cell phones when they left, and I know that they all had access to computers and the internet and email. And now most of us have access to skype too. I try to keep my intrusions into their new adult lives to a minimum, while at the same time letting them know that I love them, support them in their new lives and goals, care about their triumps and struggles, and that I am available to help if needed and able. I'm sure that sometimes in the past I have been a tad bit too interferring, and at times not involved or communicating quite as much as I should have been. It's a delicate balance to judge.
This week has been a bit different for me as DD4, our youngest child, begins her first week living away from home. I have no children at home to prepare for school, rouse in the mornings, help prepare lunches for, or drive to school and other activities. (At one point we had children in four different schools!) The first week of school has been very hands off for me this year. It is a very new experience to not send the kids off in the morning and then quiz them on it all later that afternoon while snacking on milk and cookies.
Today was the first day that I actually called and talked to DD4 for a few minutes, as I don't want to interfere too much with her adventures with her new roommates and classmates, but we have texted and/or emailed one another at least daily, usually several times a day. I'm sure it will taper off as the weeks pass, but for now it is a blessing to have such instant ways to keep in touch, to know that she is doing ok, and that she has received the small package of items that were left behind when she moved . . . even though she was more excited about the expected package of text books that has not yet arrived!!
So, to my dear children . . . how am I doing??? And to other parents out there, how and how often do you communicate with your Young Adult children???